Love Killers wk 4

4 Signs Your Marriage Is In Trouble

SUMMARY :
Every couple fights, and how you fight matters. If you’re fighting to win, you’ve already lost. 
The question isn’t whether conflict happens, but what you do with it.
This week, we’re talking about what healthy conflict actually looks like, and how to fight for your relationship instead of against each other.

KEY SCRIPTURE :
“… Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.
James 1:19-20 NIV

HIGHLIGHTS :
*When one spouse wins, both lose.

The Four Predictors of Relational Failure
1. Criticism.
2. Contempt.
3. Defensiveness.
4. Stonewalling.

• Should it be said?
• Should it be said now?

Conversational Nevers
• Never call names.
• Never get historical.
• Never threaten divorce.
• Never quote your pastor in a fight.

Win The Day!

Watch:
https://youtu.be/vyWu3z9Re-k?si=EPRwn2XoW6RlM2Wu

Listen:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/2Ogy2IZSgjxfYFh5oObWUU?si=OBqs9jUzT266f4-81b_F_Q

Discuss:
http://www.life.church/talkitover/

Join me in reading 3 Tips for Better Relationships :
https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/57334

Love Killers wk 3

Keep A Good Marriage From Drifting

SUMMARY :
A Christian couple believes in God, but a Christ-centered couple builds their life around Him. If you’re not careful, you can drift from God, a hole forms, and your marriage leaks. When God is first in your relationships, everything else falls into place.

You’re both trying. The schedules get managed, the bills get paid, and the kids are taken care of. But making God the center of your marriage together slowly got lost in the shuffle. This week, we’re talking about how to get that connection back and keep it.

KEY SCRIPTURE :
“I know your deeds, your hard work and your perseverance. … Yet I hold this against you: You have forsaken the love you had at first. Consider how far you have fallen! Repent and do the things you did at first. …” 
Revelation 2:2, 4–5 NIV

“But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.”
Matthew 6:33 NIV

HIGHLIGHTS :
•A Christian couple believes in God, but a Christ-centered couple builds their life around Him.
•If you don’t fix the hole, it doesn’t matter how much you pour in—your marriage will still leak.
• 4% of Christian couples pray together regularly.
• Of those who do, fewer than 1% divorce.
*Pray Together
-Keep it short.
-Keep it consistent.
-If you miss a day, don’t miss two.
•Don’t expect a Christ-centered marriage in the future if you’re only getting spiritual leftovers today.

Win The Day!

Watch:
https://youtu.be/hqxlDe7rFOM?si=W-oKysTv-HRzaKqi

Listen:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/6zyqIxzU3M62cVgpYAGmIF?si=vJo0L2w5RJaJ0e02OkIUow

Discuss:
http://www.life.church/talkitover/

Join me in reading 3 Tips for Better Relationships :
https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/57334

Love Killers wk 2

This Is Killing Your Marriage

SUMMARY :
Most relationships don’t die from conflict; they die from neglect. While neglect feels slow, the consequences feel sudden. When we choose to prioritize investing in our relationships, we can keep them strong and healthy.

You love each other. But somewhere along the way, you stopped really talking. Stopped pursuing.
Stopped showing up the way you used to. This week, we’re talking about how to find your way back to one another.

KEY SCRIPTURE :
“I went past the field of a sluggard, past the vineyard of someone who has no sense; thorns had come up everywhere, the ground was covered with weeds, and the stone wall was in ruins. I applied my heart to what I observed and learned a lesson from what I saw: A little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest—and poverty will come on you like a thief and scarcity like an armed man.”
Proverbs 24:30-34 NIV

HIGHLIGHTS :
•Nothing you neglect gets better.
•Most relationships don’t die from conflict; they die from neglect.
• Field: what you need today
• Vineyard: what you’re building for tomorrow
•Neglect feels slow, but the consequences feel sudden.
•Neglect isn’t just doing nothing. Sometimes it’s doing the wrong thing really well.
•You don’t drift because your marriage is weak.
•You drift because you stopped doing what made it strong.
•Neglect the rest of the world if you have to, but never neglect each other.

Win The Day!

Watch:
https://youtu.be/fQxMTa2lFkg?si=2mswV5O-lNO4W1gm

Listen:
https://open.spotify.com/episode/4HaX62HahUlmt586zMI6Bl?si=Nok7kTwATHumo3DdqPKTWQ

Discuss:
http://www.life.church/talkitover/

Join me in reading 3 Tips for Better Relationships :
https://www.bible.com/en/reading-plans/57334